Do you know how one gets to a point where you have to choose between a friend and lover ?
I never knew that that kind of stuff really has casualties and I was one .
I remember that I was in this relationship where we were really in love . When the relationship was at its peak I realized some deflection from my partner. I never bothered since I knew I had done nothing wrong . After a while it started becoming an issue , so I decided to talk to my partner. She said that we did not spend as much time as before and sh e would wish that we do so . So I did so. After a while I thought that we were at a point where we would hang out with other people in the absence of each other. I went back to hanging out with my friends but still prioritizing the relationship. Then I thought it was time that I would make my girlfriend a best friend , and I did . We got to share the same friends until I got to make other friends from work. My partner felt that I was too absorbed in my work relationships more and I was neglecting her. In my defense that was not the case it's just that my work demanded more so I had to change my environment (friends) to manage the rising demand at work .
One night while we were out I realized that she was not okay. As a man and a good partner I decided to ask what was wrong , she claimed that she was okay but I knew she was not . later on I came to my senses and realized that I was the problem and asked what I can do to make our relationship stronger. BOOM , that question there was the beginning of it . She claimed that we did not get enough time together (even though I don't know how much time is enough) and I was prioritizing my work relationships more . Then she gave me an ultimatum either my work or her.
I slept on the idea of what was of more value . After a week she posed the same question and she told me that I had to decide on that day . After trying to convince her that we could find other ways to resolve the matter she never listened so she decided to leave. Several months later I got fired due to low output at work and that is how I realized that not all casualties come from accidents.
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